A friend once shared a story about a girl he liked and how he wanted to ask her out on a date. I helped him set it up, and she agreed to go out with him. However, she didn’t show up. He asked me afterwards, “Should I try again?”
Deciding whether to try again depends on the details. If it was the first date and it’s unclear if she’s interested, I’d suggest not pursuing it further. On the other hand, if it’s a second or third date and you’ve built some rapport, then rescheduling might be worth it.
If you haven’t started talking to her much before the first date, there’s no strong reason to push for a reschedule. But if you’ve talked enough for her to get to know you somewhat, then rescheduling might make sense. If it’s the first date, don’t be too pushy; there could be various reasons for her no-show, like work issues or unexpected delays. Don’t ruin a potential future friendship over one missed date.
Girls might flake for several reasons:
1. If she felt you weren’t confident or masculine enough. Women often look for strength and confidence in a partner.
2. If you weren’t being your true self. Authenticity is key, and women can sense when someone is not genuine.
3. If you tried too hard to convince her. Being yourself is more attractive than attempting to be someone else.
4. She might have been genuinely busy with unexpected matters.
When a girl flakes, it’s natural to feel frustrated. Here’s how to handle it:
1. Don’t take it personally. If it happens once or twice, move on without dwelling on it.
2. React calmly. Don’t make the situation about you or become overly needy.
3. Think about why she might have flaked. There could be various reasons beyond her control.
4. Stay friendly and warm. Respect her reasons and remain pleasant in your interactions.
To prevent flakes:
1. Pick dates that are easy and convenient for both.
2. Be flexible. Show understanding when things don’t go as planned.
3. Have a backup plan. This way, if the date falls through, you won’t feel like you’ve wasted time.
4. Be simple and direct when planning the date. Clear communication can prevent misunderstandings.
In conclusion, stay calm when a girl flakes. There’s often little you can do about it, and if you’re too eager to try again, it might come off as needy. Take your time before asking her out again.